It Just Is

Recently when I was dealing with a stressful and anxiety provoking situation. A good friend of mine I had grown fond of was moving to the otherside of the world and I wasn’t sure what that was going to mean for our friendship. It’s hard enough for me with my hectic schedule to keep in contact with friends who live in the same city as I do so I could only imagine how hard it would be to keep in contact with someone on a totally different continent!

After dealing with this anxiety and looking at what appeared to be a bleak situation as far as mantaining our friendship goes, I turned to what is quickly becoming one of my favorite books, Eckhart Tolle’s The Power of Now. In The Power of Now there is a rather Buddhist, Zen like philosophy which basically states that things aren’t good or bad, they just are. Simply put, sometimes when something that initially seems bad, it may turn out to be good or vice versa. Lets say you wake up one morning late for work, that initially seems like a bad thing, but if you get to work 5 minutes after the place had just been robbed, you being late may have actually saved your life. There are a gazillion examples one can use for this, but my point is, when I stopped looking at my situation in black and white, as good or bad, but just as it was, a strong sense of peace came over me that not only let me examine the situation and how I felt about it, but allowed me to accept it. Accepting it doesn’t mean I liked it or was okay with it, but it is what it is and I have to deal with that. Her leaving, which seems bad, could open up the possibility for new friendships for the both of us, or help our friendship grow stronger through emails and phone calls, the possiblities of what this means is endless once I see and accept the facts for what they are. The next time something in your life appears initially to be good or bad, try not to put those concrete black or white labels on it and accept the situation for what it is. Hopefully this will help you see the facts better and help you appreciate the situation for what it is.