The Chinise pictogram for the word “Crisis” is a combination of two words; danger and opportunity.

Within crisis, within your personal crisis, there is potential danger and potential opportunity, especially for change. Many people faced with crisis, rather it be cancer, war or may have you, see that crisis and danger as a great opportunity for change and personal growth.

Ask anyone who has had a near-death experience (terrible car accident, gun held to their head, terrible illness) and see how it has changed their way of thinking. What you will find is that many of them now actually live life more than they did before, are more aware of not only their own existence, but the existence of others. They become less afraid of fear and rejection and more willing to try new things and embrace new experiences.

 I will elaborate about this much more later, but right now you can take advantage of any crisis you may be experiencing right now rather it be the loss of a job, house, or whatever it may be, and stop ruminating about how bad or terrible it is, and discover the opportunity in it, especially the opportunity for personal growth. 

You can also look at it in another way. Whenever there is crisis that does not directly affect you, there is still opportunity there for you to either help directly or at least reflect on it. An earth quake in China can give you the opportunity to donate to charity or in the less, appreciate that today, in this moment, you are alive and have the opportunity to make any changes you need to make to live your best life ever, rather it’s apologizing to a love one for a wrong did long ago or to quite going to a job you’ve hated for the past 10 years.

Automatic Negative Thoughts

I am so surprised I haven’t talked about this earlier. Automatic Negative Thoughts, or ANTS as they are widely known in the psychological world.

Most of us all have ANTS to one extent or another. They are usually subconscious, negative and pessimistic self-talk that happens when we are under some sort of stress. Another thing I have realized about ANTS is that when used often enough as a coping skill they pop up in ever instance and not just in instances of stress.

For example, I have a friend that on a beautiful summer day will complain that the sun is too bright. On a cozy winter night will complain that it’s too stuffy. In any and every instance she is looking for something to complain about. She has become controlled by her automatic negative thoughts which.

The way to defeat ANTS is simple, but it takes practice and intention. In psychology they are called coping statements and I’ll give you some quick examples.

Negative Thought/Situation                                Coping Statement

No one likes me.                                                    I have no real evidence to show this and even
                                                                               if it were true, I dont’ care because I like


I suck at everything I do.                                        There are some things I don’t suck at.

I am hopeless.                                                       I am not hopeless. I have felt this before. This
                                                                              feeling will pass.

There are an infinite amount of examples I can give and that you can think of. The trick is to turn your ANTS into positive or reaffirming thoughts. One last tip. Take a piece of paper and write down your automatic negative thoughts and then your corrections to change your ANTS into more positive or reaffirming thoughts.

I hope I explained this well, I was writing it while in the middle of many interruptions. Some people just don’t respect my privacy or my blog. If you have any questions or if there is anyway I can clear somethings up, please leave a comment or email at